Dave asked for details, so it's like this: I was dating th..
Published: May 1st 2021, 1:42:01 pm
Dave asked for details, so it's like this:
I was dating this guy (we'll call him Riley) for about 5-6 months. We instantly connected, he was great, the sex was incredible (like, you know how some guys will *say* they'll go down on you for hours? Riley actually did). We had a couple disagreements along the way, and it was pretty clear that he hadn't quite processed his past relationship, but mostly it was really beautiful.
Because of our schedules, we could only really see each other on Friday nights, so eventually it was every Friday that we were seeing each other. Then he had a few weeks where he was out of town, and before he left I told him I would see him in the Friday after he got back.
Then he gets back on a Wednesday and I'm talking to him on the phone, and I mention that I'll see him in two days. And he's like "oh... I made other plans." And like obviously we weren't monogamous, he was seeing other people, but I thought he would want to see me and was aware that I could only really do Fridays. But no, instead he tells me, "I didn't think either of us wanted to give up our Friday nights indefinitely"
Like, oh, I didn't realize I was wasting such a valuable resource of yours 🙄😡 so at first I was fine with it, but then a few days later I admitted that I had felt really hurt by that. And Riley basically gave me the old "I'm sorry you felt hurt but since I didn't do it on purpose I'm not responsible for hurting you and also what I did wasn't wrong and that's that."
Like, at this point I wasn't so much mad about him having other plans on our night. I was mad that he implied spending time with me was a waste of a night. I was mad that the plan (albeit implicit and not explicit) I made with him before he left wasn't good enough. And I was mad that when I told him I felt hurt and insecure about his feelings for me, he just defended himself.
But he said he didn't want to talk about it over text and stopped responding, even when I tried to figure out when we could talk about it in person. Then a week later after radio silence from him I asked if we were ever going to talk about it, and he told me I was being too sassy and was going to stop responding again. So I basically said fine, we're done.
Except that was 3 months ago and I still miss him a lot 😓 and I'm not proud of this but twice I've gotten 🍷🍻🍸 and texted him telling him I miss him, and he hasn't said a word. And I know for a fact that if I just showed up at his door he wouldn't think it was quirky and romantic, he would think it was a huge invasion of his privacy.
So... that's it. Idk. Please chime in, I want your opinions. Even if it's like "yeah he was right and you sound crazy" I just want to know.