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Hey guys,I shared a post on our social medial about the powe..
Published: June 6th 2025, 1:00:17 pm
Hey guys,
I shared a post on our social medial about the power of cuddling… but here, I want to go deeper. More intimate.
There’s something many of you ask me in private:
“How do I tell my partner I have a fantasy?”
“What if she’s shy?”
“What if she judges me?”
The truth is… the answer doesn’t start in bed.
It starts way BEFORE with... emotional connection.
Cuddling might seem sweet and simple…
but when it’s conscious, it can be as powerful as an orgasm. Really!
🧠💗 Studies suggest that affectionate physical touch - like cuddling - reduces cortisol (the stress hormone) and increases oxytocin (the bonding and wellbeing hormone).
Oxytocin improves communication, lowers emotional reactivity, and builds emotional safety between partners.
💡 One of the most important lessons I learned in sexology:
When one partner has low desire, the answer isn’t always “more sex.”
Sometimes it’s more touch, gentle caresses without WITHOUT INTERCOURSE, just skin to skin and presence.
I also asked myself the question that you are asking yourself now :P
"Nahh, Really?"
Desire doesn’t always begin in the genitals. It often begins in a conscious hug, deep conversation, small gift.
So yes, if you want your partner to open up more sexually, start by holding her more. With presence. With patience. With skin.
Why? Because when you feel safe, your body softens.
It’s easier to open up. To feel. To ask for what you want.
In my opinion, showing vulnerability is one of the boldest kinds of courage.
So this post isn’t just a reflection. It’s an invitation:
Create safety before asking for something new…
and watch how everything shifts.
I hope this helps you as much as sharing it is helping me. I'm discovering all of this alongside you, and I truly love your questions. Thank you for trusting me and sharing your experiences. I love you, and I wish you joy, connection, and truth in your own relationships too.
Kisses,
🖤
